The Oasis Reporters
September 28, 2017
A primary school Arabic teacher in Gombe State, north eastern Nigeria got the shocker of her life when remanded in prison custody over her planned marriage to the young friend of her first son.
Teacher Hussaina Abba had earlier sued her late husband’s siblings and her children before a court for opposing her planned marriage.
She told the area court at Idi Quarters that her late husband’s younger siblings , Aliyu Mohammed and Abdullahi Bello were opposed to her planned marriage simply because the groom is a friend and classmate of her first son.
Hussaina told the court that the duo refused to take custody of six out of the 11 children left behind by their late elder brother to allow her to marry the man.
She said since the death of her husband years ago, she did not receive any marriage proposal until the arrival of the man, who she later learned was a friend to her first son.
She said she agreed to the young man’s marriage proposal because of the love and genuine care he had shown to her.
However, the men told the court that she refused their earlier offer to take custody of the children, but only changed her position now that she wants to re-marry a man that is an age mate and friend of her son.
They also said they objected to the marriage because the man is of questionable character.
Also, her eldest son, Mohammed Bello Adamu, who represented his siblings at the court, opposed the planned marriage between his mother and his friend.
He said there was a time the same man threatened to kill the younger sister of his mother’s friend for refusing to sleep with him.
He added that the man must have cast a spell on his mother, hence her strange behaviour and being adamant to marry him despite opposition from various quarters.
On her part, the teacher, Hussaina said she had already collected N15,000 as part payment of the dowry from the suitor, Abdussalam Abdulkadir.
“Since this marriage is not against any law, I love him and want to marry him because he is the only man that proposed to marry me since the death of my husband years ago. Therefore I will not shelve my planned marriage because of objection from my children or anyone else,” she told the court.
When asked by the court if the allegations against him were true, Abdussalam said yes. He however said that he still loves the mother of his onetime classmate and is ready to marry her.
The presiding judge, Malam Saleh Jibrin, ordered that both Hussaina and Abdussalam be remanded in prison custody in order to dispel the alleged charm.
He adjourned the matter to September 26 for continuation of hearing.
Most marriages in the Islamic and ultra conservative Northern Nigeria are often between older men with young girls, at times as young as ten or eleven years while the man could be aged between twenty to even sixty.
Therefore a reversal between an older woman with a younger man in marriage causes culture shock and anger in the region.